Second Step - Unit II

Our class has started Unit II of the Second Step curriculum. It focuses on impulse control and problem solving. Impulse control means slowing down and thinking rather than doing the first thing that pops into your head. Problem solving is a strategy for dealing with problems we face with other people and as individuals. Calming-down techniques are taught to give your child the skills to compose him -- or herself so that a given problem can be solved more effectively.

Our class will learn and practice steps for calming down and solving problems. You can help by practicing these new skills at home with your child. For example, reinforcing calming-down skills at home may go something like this:

Your child comes in upset about her younger sibling playing with her new toy. You might say, "Wow! I can tell that you're upset. Try taking three deep breaths, then count backward slowly before deciding what to do."

After your child has calmed down, you might then help her practice the problem solving steps by saying, Now that you've calmed down, tell me what the problem is. What are some ideas that might solve it. Let's go through each of your possible solutions and ask, 'Is it safe? How might people feel about it? Is it fair? Will it work?' Now choose a solution and give it a try. If it works, great! If not, then try something else."

Copies of the posters Calming Yourself Down and How to Solve Problems went home in your child's folder today. We use these during Second Step lessons; feel free to post them at home.

In this unit, your child will also practice using such skills as apologizing, ignoring distractions, and dealing with peer pressure. With some lessons, I will send home the steps for certain skills so that your child can practice them at home. If your family uses different steps, please discuss this with your child and let me know. We do not consider the steps to be absolute rules; rather, they are guidelines for being safe and fair.

Please contact me if you have any questions about impulse control, problem-solving skills or the Second Step program.